Love Talk

Most Couples Start with Good Intentions

Most every couple I have worked with starts out with good intentions, but with time and familiarity they start to settle into ways of relating that are rooted in their personal upbringing. These attachment patterns run deep and the work of recognizing how we learned to attach to others as a result of how we attached or failed to attach to our own loved ones during childhood.

It is a passion of mine to work with couples and see them start to recognize and change old toxic patterns.

Most probably   your relationship is on a "back burner" and you are so busy with your everyday life that you continue with the old toxic dance steps of the past.

You find yourselves stepping on toes and never seem to "get it right". It's time to learn new effective dance steps that will revolutionize your relationship.

I provide couples therapy in an intimate country home office. Many couples desire the privacy of seeing a therapist where they won't be seen in the waiting room by others they may know. My home office is in a rural Place.

 “Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” “It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.” “As he read, I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once.” “The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it's indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it's indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it's indifference.” “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” “I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.” “Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.” “Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.” “There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.” “This life is what you make it. No matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And baby, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up because if you give up, you'll never find your soulmate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.” “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” “You love me. Real or not real?"

“You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”

“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”


“You've gotta dance like there's nobody watching,
Love like you'll never be hurt,
Sing like there's nobody listening,
And live like it's heaven on earth.” 

“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” 


100% of love for your lover/ or maybe close member of your family or whatever but most used with a lover.

Regardless of how that person treats you, or what they do to you, you love them no matter what. Your love to them is unconditional. Them people who give Unconditional love are the true heroes in this world.

She treats him like shit but he still loves her as if she's never done anything wrong. Unconditional love

Friend 1: Man, my girlfriend never got me anything but I got her so many gifts.

Friend 2: So what dude? Your love is unconditional. You will get your reward later in life.

To love somebody with no conditions or circumstances: to love completely

I love that girl. Do I need a reason? no but I love that girl completely.

“I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.”
― Douglas Adams, The Salmon of Doubt

tags: deadlines, humor, humour, work, writing

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”
― Maya Angelou, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings

tags: 1970, inspirational, stories, writing

“What really knocks me out is a book that, when you're all done reading it, you wish the author that wrote it was a terrific friend of yours and you could call him up on the phone whenever you felt like it. That doesn't happen much, though.”
― J.D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye